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May 13, 2014 |
Hello Mr. Keillor,
I'm in my mid twenties and I have an older brother who is very handsome and, through hard work and luck, very wealthy. While I work in a career I find enjoyable, I will never get rich at it. Nor do I possess such good looks as he. Lately, I find it so hard to spend time around him because I become consumed with jealousy. I love my brother and don't want to continue to hold on to this anger and hurt I feel. I would like to read your thoughts about overcoming envy.
Envy is the green-eyed monster. I have envied some athletes who also possessed charm and smarts, a pretty potent combination. But I got over envy simply by avoiding them, which isn't a good idea for you. I'm going to stick my neck out here and suggest a bold move on your part. Tell your brother you think that he and you should take a long trip together -- say, New Zealand, or India, or a cruise around South America -- someplace faraway and beautiful (and expensive), and he would pay for it. A sibling trip, just the two of you. Tell him you love him and you need to rebuild the bond between the two of you. If he says no, then give him a wide berth for awhile and then bring it up again. He should say yes and he should spend the money that would make it wonderful and on the trip you'll get to see him up close and get a better reading on him. His wealth may not be bringing him happiness. He may need your help and support. I think that closeness is a better strategy for you than avoiding him.