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February 19, 2013 |
Within the span of three months, I have been laid off from my (amazing) job and my boyfriend broke up with me. How do I keep moving ahead when everything feels so wrong? What I thought made me who I am is now gone. I feel scared and sad about the future. Do you have any thoughts about starting over?
Scared and sad is pretty normal after you've taken a couple hard bumps but you know that the job and the boyfriend didn't make you who you are. So maybe you should sit down and write yourself an essay about who you are, leaving out the job and the boyfriend. A little exercise to clear the mind. Your best memories and most dismal ones, your strong qualities and what you need to work on. Regrets and hopes for the future. Don't bother with literary touches, just dash down an honest appraisal of yourself. If you haven't done some cost-cutting, you'll want to do that -- an interesting exercise: what's important to you and what can be dispensed with. I think you should plan a trip for yourself, a sort of cleansing experience and a chance to think about the future. Get out of Orlando and head for a place you love and hike and bike around for a week or two or three. Finally, I recommend that you enter into a new phase of militant discipline. Put your mind to achieving a few things you want to do for yourself -- it's a perfect time -- to learn a language or a new skill, to lose weight, to kill off a bad habit, to accomplish some things that make you feel good about yourself. Militance is a great tonic. Start with a daily workout, a brisk walk, and go from there. Women tend to take longer than men to get over a romance, so we want to get you through the next six months (maybe more) and make it count for something. You can do it.